We all do have those self-talking minutes everyday, and it’s quite normal but sometimes we cannot control our self-talks and it’s definitely bad for us mentally and physically.
as we go about our daily lives we are constantly thinking about and interpreting the situations we find ourselves in. It’s as though we have an internal voice inside our head that determines how we perceive every situation. Psychologists call this inner voice ‘self-talk‘, and it includes our conscious thoughts as well as our unconscious assumptions or beliefs…
most of time, our self-talk is about: ” I didn’t do well today”, “I’m feeling hopeless”, “I want to achieve that”, “I must be looking forward”….
And by the end of the day we found ourselves exhausted because of a painful headache, or a hot fever!
The self-talk doesn’t affect only the mental side of us, but also it affects us physically, it is often skewed towards the negative, and sometimes it’s just plain wrong. so that’s why it’s so important to control what you’re telling to yourself everyday.
the self-talk can provide two kind of persons: optimist person and pessimist person.
for the optimist he/she needs only a strong confidence and lot of hope to a great achievement, and of course by controlling his/her actions and being responsible for everything, and they must believe that there’s some good things in this world they must fight for! and they will definitely succeed ! No doubt!
The pessimist person will lead him/her self to failure and that’s by doubt and despair, how they create these two? well the answer is simple
by the self-talk!
It is often skewed towards the negative, and sometimes it’s just plain wrong, so how do we avoid it? and if the failure is not enough to avoid the negative self-talk what else can happen?
Well, we must challenge ourselves and have the grip on our minds! by asking a few questions such as:
1. Reality testing
- What is my evidence for and against my thinking?
- Are my thoughts factual, or are they just my interpretations?
- Am I jumping to negative conclusions?
- How can I find out if my thoughts are actually true?
2. Look for alternative explanations
- Are there any other ways that I could look at this situation?
- What else could this mean?
- If I were being positive, how would I perceive this situation?
3. Putting it in perspective
- Is this situation as bad as I am making out to be?
- What is the worst thing that could happen? How likely is it?
- What is the best thing that could happen?
- What is most likely to happen?
- Is there anything good about this situation?
- Will this matter in five years time?
And also we must have a specified goal that we seek to reach, if we don’t have any, then let’s create one, why are we living? we must do something that may change our lives and others lives!
And we must keep in mind that Optimism leads to a healthy life long living term, and a happier one, no diseases no struggling.
and if you need help just go to the closest person to your heart, or someone you can trust, ask for their help, I’m sure they care and remember that: “Even the darkest night will end and the sun will rise.”