Opportunity wait for me….

Dear readers, Opportunity-Next-Exit

It has been a few months since I had posted anything here.

I have been recently wandering about what I want to do with my summer, and during the upcoming school year; should I look for another job with a higher salary? should I travel to see a friend, or should I stay home this summer do nothing and just study for my prep tests? But I want an opportunity, I want some exchange program, abroad far away from where I live, I want to explore more places, meet new people… I applied last semester to a few stuffs and didn’t get accepted to them, should I give up on doing that? 

But hey, wait… I think I have been very lucky to get many opportunities last year, starting from human rights to training on leadership and entrepreneurship to facilitating sessions with important organizations internationally… I think I had many opportunities, that I might have never thought I will have.. but still I want to explore the horizon 

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However, it has made me a little anxious, and worried, until I figured out something, it’s us who create these opportunities, as Ann Landers once said : ” Opportunities are disguised as hard work that’s why so many people don’t recognize them”

And she was right, because opportunities are all over around us, they can be a school assignment, a final exam, or the smallest responsibility that is given for you to take… I think that when we don’t figure out what is the true meaning of something as in ” opportunity” we will be less able to enjoy our lives, or people around us.

We should be more grateful for the little things we have, appreciate the fact that we have them, they are an opportunity, if you have a loving husband it’s an opportunity, if you have  a loving parent that’s another one, if you find yourself in a school with zero issue that’s an opportunity, if you have food on your table that’s another one too. so by the end of the day it’s up to you and what you want to do with this opportunity, our time is limited, and we won’t have those forever, so decide well, love more, and focus on what you have, but that doesn’t mean to stop looking for what’s far from you, do it, fearlessly and with courage, but don’t neglect what is present there for you too…

 

Fearlessly with love

 

Ikram

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Self-talk beyond psychology and science…

 We all do have those self-talking minutes everyday, and it’s quite normal but sometimes we cannot control our self-talks and it’s definitely bad for us mentally and physically. 

as we go about our daily lives we are constantly thinking about and interpreting the situations we find ourselves in. It’s as though we have an internal voice inside our head that determines how we perceive every situation. Psychologists call this inner voice ‘self-talk‘, and it includes our conscious thoughts as well as our unconscious assumptions or beliefs…

most of time, our self-talk is about: ” I didn’t do well today”, “I’m feeling hopeless”, “I want to achieve that”, “I must be looking forward”….

And by the end of the day we found ourselves exhausted because of a painful headache, or a hot fever!

The self-talk doesn’t affect only the mental side of us, but also it affects us physically, it  is often skewed towards the negative, and sometimes it’s just plain wrong. so that’s why it’s so important to control what you’re telling to yourself everyday.

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the self-talk can provide two kind of persons: optimist person and pessimist person.

for the optimist he/she needs only a strong confidence and lot of hope to a great achievement, and of course by controlling his/her actions and being responsible for everything, and they must believe that there’s some good things in this world they must fight for! and they will definitely succeed ! No doubt!

The pessimist person will lead him/her self to failure and that’s by doubt and despair, how they create these two? well the answer is simple

by the self-talk!

It  is often skewed towards the negative, and sometimes it’s just plain wrong, so how do we avoid it? and if the failure is not enough to avoid the negative self-talk what else can happen?

Well, we must challenge ourselves and have the grip on our minds! by asking a few questions such as:

1. Reality testing

  • What is my evidence for and against my thinking?john-p-thinking
  • Are my thoughts factual, or are they just my interpretations?
  • Am I jumping to negative conclusions?
  • How can I find out if my thoughts are actually true?

2. Look for alternative explanations

  • Are there any other ways that I could look at this situation?
  • What else could this mean?
  • If I were being positive, how would I perceive this situation?

3. Putting it in perspective

  • Is this situation as bad as I am making out to be?
  • What is the worst thing that could happen? How likely is it?
  • What is the best thing that could happen?
  • What is most likely to happen?
  • Is there anything good about this situation?
  • Will this matter in five years time?

And also we must have a specified goal that we seek to reach, if we don’t have any, then let’s create one, why are we living? we must do something that may change our lives and others lives!

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Pessimism might lead to heart diseases and an eternal depression that cant be coped ! it harms our lives and the ones that we love the most, at least if we have that spot of not loving ourselves enough all of us have that big feeling of loving someone else, so we have to protect them how? protect them from the pain of losing us! 
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Be safe they’re waiting for you!

And we must keep in mind that Optimism leads to a healthy life long living term, and a happier one, no diseases no struggling.

and if you need help just go to the closest person to your heart, or someone you can trust, ask for their help, I’m sure they care and  remember that: “Even the darkest night will end and the sun will rise.”