A Drained Empath

Most of the people do not believe in the fact that we all have energies within ourselves. and actually these energies can be boosted or drained. especially if you are an EMPATH. 

It happened to be that I’m a grateful living empath, this year so many great opportunities came into my life and I took the benefit of each one of them until now, but in some of those opportunities I have missed a lot, and I didn’t take all I needed to take from them, too simply because I was drained.moon-goddess

At some points during this year, like many other times before, I was surrounded by a few energy suckers, or I like to call them energy vampires, somehow by bringing all their problems at once, acting dramatic and being negative all the time makes you feel like their problems are also yours, so you began feeling the same as they do, and suddenly you’re living in negative vibes that will suck all your energy, you find yourself helping them and making them a priority but by the end of the day, all you will feel is exhaustion because they will keep draining you a day after another.

This is what being an affectionate empath is, and it’s unhealthy for a living being…. So I decided to act about it, because the situation was no longer working for me, since I am surrounded by so many people, all the time.

I just had to be a little selfish here, I had to push those who drain me away from me, avoid them or even more cut the contact gently with them. I had to keep my energy for myself, I need it to survive.

It is such a bless to feel people so deeply sometimes and to be able to help them to heal or relieve a lasting pain, but some people are really toxic, and they’re just around us for their own benefit.

We must tolerate our differences all the time, accept the people around us, because I believe that we meet these people for a reason either it’s a blessing or a lesson.

Be fearless and choose your surroundings carefully, and remember, not everyone is worth your time and energy, so save it for your own sake.

Those bullies of mine….And my story in dealing with’em

As most of the kids my parents sent me to a public school, it was pretty exciting for me at the beginning to learn new stuffs about different subjects and meet new people…  yeah new people…  

I remember my years at the middle school where I was the most fat and the tallest girl of my class! yeah I was that BIG …

One of the greatest things that made me a target for those kids was being that BIG for them and everyone was like: LOSE WEIGHT FAT COW!! I have to admit that in the past it hurt me a lot to hear something similar from those I spent eight 136324hours per a day with, and the most hurtful thing was when we were having a team work or a sport activity most of them avoided me…. 

I kept trying to interact with them at first but I failed and I’m not ashamed to say that! so all I did was ignoring them as much as I could, and isolate myself from them till I reached a point where I couldn’t speak to anyone of them!

An other situation where I got bullied was a few years ago, I’ve been attacked by three girls who wanted to take my seat place at the class, I didn’t want to leave my seat for them! who would do that? well and another confusing question how can the three ones of them sit at the same place?? !!!! one of them tried to flip the chair I was sitting at and the other started to curse me and insult me with some vulgar words I never heard someone saying in my whole life!!! I wanted to speak to the teacher but they ran to her before me and told her other stuffs! even I, I was so surprised!! I can’t forget that day ever!! I kept crying, just like kids do, and I went back home and reported everything to my elder brother! the next day we went to the school’s principal and reported everything to him, he was like OK I will deal with IT !! just relax! AND I SWEAR THAT HE NEVER DID !!! 🙂 I didn’t feel like I wanted to go back to school because I felt like I was the joke of the class! but eventually, I had to go back to school!! So I decided to avoid them, I took a chair, a table and put it on the back of the class, and I asked a girl I knew she was good to join me at my table …. I could have revenged and acted the same way as they acted, and attack people as the same way they attacked me, but I choose to do it the hard way! I was teasing them!! 🙂 how? too simply I fat-skinnywas the first of my class for each trimester and the one that gets the best grades in EVERY subject! they went crazy for that! I have to admit that ignoring them was a great thing I did for a while, but later in life I figured out that No man is an island! or that’s why my English teacher kept trying to make me understand it! at some point they were right!! I had to lose weight! so I went through a diet! 🙂 So yeah I went from that pic on the left to the one in the right!!!

Eventually, I figured out that moving on is a bless! So I had to forgive them deep down in myself, without letting them know I did, I didn’t forgave them because they apologized (they never did actually), or because someone told me to! I forgave them because I needed that so I can move on with my life, and see things differently! but the most thing that made me upset and mad! was the fact that they were bullying others…..! and NO ONE was acting about it! even the teachers! I may haven’t reacted wildly when they bullied me, but when they did to that nice redhead girl who was sitting next to me I got upset! It was the first time I ever had to face them! I went to those girls and told them to stop the crap they were doing! because it’s no longer valid! they actually look so stupid, it didn’t make them look any special or different! it was just making them looking worse a day after another!!! when I mentioned how stupid they look I think it was a kind of a punch on the face to them to wake up!! and realize what they were doing!

After that day, I felt like I grew up some fearless attitude inside of me! I wasn’t scared nor worried to tell anyone the truth in their face, and give my opinion fearlessly !

I have to admit that without those bullies I wouldn’t be where I am now! I grew up slowly, a step by step to become fearless! and more confident than I was in the past! Thanks to them I was getting the best grades! thanks to them I developed myself optimism!

My message here is: be who you are, never hurt or bully others, it can harm a lot of people lives, don’t take it as a joke, because this joke can grow up to be something serious and lead others to harm themselves in any possible way just to get forgiveandforgetquotesrid of that pain they think is real! be friendly, be nice, be what you want to be without crossing your limits! and the world will be just FINE …. 

And for those whom are getting bullied, report it, if it’s not working, ignore them, if it’s not working then face them, make them stop that thing they’re doing! don’t behave inappropriately ! forgive them, and move on with your life ! do it for yourself, not for them! I know it’s hard, I’ve been there, and got out safely, as I did, I’m sure you’re strong enough to do as well! I believe in you! focus on positive things, life is beautiful, I know they make it look like it’s the worst place to be at, but trust me, it’s not! we’ve got so much to give! so much to live for, you can’t imagine the opportunities that are waiting for you to take them! never lose hope! go after your dreams and achieve them! don’t tie your life to people nor to objects because they will fade, tie it to a sacred goal and achieve it! that will be the time when you will reach happiness! 

Much love, Ikram ❤

Meditation was the Key !!!

   If someone asked me for a trick to reduce stress, anxiety, fear, and any psychic issue some one may ever feel I would advise them simple to “MEDITATE” ….

For me meditation is going to some quiet place, relax, forget about the whole universe for a little while, put some classical music on, and clear your mind, just let the positive thoughts flow to your mind, let yourself BE, let all your body relax, your hands, your muscles, your head, breathe in slowly, inhale, now meditationexhale……

it’s lots of positive vibes flowing into your mind and your body, you will feel that you’re energized with positivism and strength… what a wonderful thing you can sens !!

It’s all about picking up the right place and the right time to meditate…it’s always great to do it but if you’re feeling very stressed or afraid of something, or having lots of worries, or having a bad day, I suggest for you to do it…. especially outside of your house, go to the nature, some small forest, in front of some long river or just a place where you can see the sunset, I have to admit that there isn’t any other thing in the whole world that amazes me more than the sunsets, the sunsets electrifies me in a spectacular way that opens my mind and make me wonder about how great our creator is…. What a magnificent lord ! o-MEDITATION-facebook

As I always say, fear is just in our minds, it doesn’t exist, together with hands tied and open minds we might be able to feel more fearless in our blessed days ….. how great to wake up healthy everyday to see the world, how blessed we are, we just can’t thank god enough for everything he’s giving us….

I believe that meditation is a healthy nutrition for the spirit, everyone should put it on their diets.

The glamour of Dark Chocolate

Most of the time, we hear that chocolate makes you feel good or comforts you for a while…especially the girls, it gives us some unpredictable strength.

So the secret beyond dark chocolate is that it helps you to live longer, from lot of sides…

Image

Did you know that eating a small amount of dark chocolate, twice or trice each week lowers the blood pressure?. Besides , it improves the blood flowing and that may help prevent the formation of blood clots. How magnificent is that !

From another hand, it can help in improving the cognitive function. and reduces the risk of stroke!

Image

And the biggest secret beyond dark chocolate is that it  contains phenylalanine (PEA), the same chemical your brain creates when you feel like you’re falling in love. that chemical magical thing encourages your brain to release endorphins, so basically eating dark chocolate will make you feel happier and more energized 😀 .

It contains also, some vitamins and minerals that keeps us healthy!

dark chocolate can be really dangerous for animals, and lot of people have killed their animals by giving them chocolate which is basically wrong! Never Ever EVER EVER give your dog a peace of chocolate !! please don’t even try it! I’m serious!

So you have to control the amount of chocolate your eating, from time to time, and when you feel depressed or down, grab a chocolate bar and eat it!

Chocolate is a healthy choice to feel better for a while, better than drinking alcohol or taking drugs, that may lead you to death!

You want to be fearless, one of the greatest signs of being fearless is taking care of yourself!