Opportunity wait for me….

Dear readers, Opportunity-Next-Exit

It has been a few months since I had posted anything here.

I have been recently wandering about what I want to do with my summer, and during the upcoming school year; should I look for another job with a higher salary? should I travel to see a friend, or should I stay home this summer do nothing and just study for my prep tests? But I want an opportunity, I want some exchange program, abroad far away from where I live, I want to explore more places, meet new people… I applied last semester to a few stuffs and didn’t get accepted to them, should I give up on doing that? 

But hey, wait… I think I have been very lucky to get many opportunities last year, starting from human rights to training on leadership and entrepreneurship to facilitating sessions with important organizations internationally… I think I had many opportunities, that I might have never thought I will have.. but still I want to explore the horizon 

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However, it has made me a little anxious, and worried, until I figured out something, it’s us who create these opportunities, as Ann Landers once said : ” Opportunities are disguised as hard work that’s why so many people don’t recognize them”

And she was right, because opportunities are all over around us, they can be a school assignment, a final exam, or the smallest responsibility that is given for you to take… I think that when we don’t figure out what is the true meaning of something as in ” opportunity” we will be less able to enjoy our lives, or people around us.

We should be more grateful for the little things we have, appreciate the fact that we have them, they are an opportunity, if you have a loving husband it’s an opportunity, if you have  a loving parent that’s another one, if you find yourself in a school with zero issue that’s an opportunity, if you have food on your table that’s another one too. so by the end of the day it’s up to you and what you want to do with this opportunity, our time is limited, and we won’t have those forever, so decide well, love more, and focus on what you have, but that doesn’t mean to stop looking for what’s far from you, do it, fearlessly and with courage, but don’t neglect what is present there for you too…

 

Fearlessly with love

 

Ikram

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Those bullies of mine….And my story in dealing with’em

As most of the kids my parents sent me to a public school, it was pretty exciting for me at the beginning to learn new stuffs about different subjects and meet new people…  yeah new people…  

I remember my years at the middle school where I was the most fat and the tallest girl of my class! yeah I was that BIG …

One of the greatest things that made me a target for those kids was being that BIG for them and everyone was like: LOSE WEIGHT FAT COW!! I have to admit that in the past it hurt me a lot to hear something similar from those I spent eight 136324hours per a day with, and the most hurtful thing was when we were having a team work or a sport activity most of them avoided me…. 

I kept trying to interact with them at first but I failed and I’m not ashamed to say that! so all I did was ignoring them as much as I could, and isolate myself from them till I reached a point where I couldn’t speak to anyone of them!

An other situation where I got bullied was a few years ago, I’ve been attacked by three girls who wanted to take my seat place at the class, I didn’t want to leave my seat for them! who would do that? well and another confusing question how can the three ones of them sit at the same place?? !!!! one of them tried to flip the chair I was sitting at and the other started to curse me and insult me with some vulgar words I never heard someone saying in my whole life!!! I wanted to speak to the teacher but they ran to her before me and told her other stuffs! even I, I was so surprised!! I can’t forget that day ever!! I kept crying, just like kids do, and I went back home and reported everything to my elder brother! the next day we went to the school’s principal and reported everything to him, he was like OK I will deal with IT !! just relax! AND I SWEAR THAT HE NEVER DID !!! 🙂 I didn’t feel like I wanted to go back to school because I felt like I was the joke of the class! but eventually, I had to go back to school!! So I decided to avoid them, I took a chair, a table and put it on the back of the class, and I asked a girl I knew she was good to join me at my table …. I could have revenged and acted the same way as they acted, and attack people as the same way they attacked me, but I choose to do it the hard way! I was teasing them!! 🙂 how? too simply I fat-skinnywas the first of my class for each trimester and the one that gets the best grades in EVERY subject! they went crazy for that! I have to admit that ignoring them was a great thing I did for a while, but later in life I figured out that No man is an island! or that’s why my English teacher kept trying to make me understand it! at some point they were right!! I had to lose weight! so I went through a diet! 🙂 So yeah I went from that pic on the left to the one in the right!!!

Eventually, I figured out that moving on is a bless! So I had to forgive them deep down in myself, without letting them know I did, I didn’t forgave them because they apologized (they never did actually), or because someone told me to! I forgave them because I needed that so I can move on with my life, and see things differently! but the most thing that made me upset and mad! was the fact that they were bullying others…..! and NO ONE was acting about it! even the teachers! I may haven’t reacted wildly when they bullied me, but when they did to that nice redhead girl who was sitting next to me I got upset! It was the first time I ever had to face them! I went to those girls and told them to stop the crap they were doing! because it’s no longer valid! they actually look so stupid, it didn’t make them look any special or different! it was just making them looking worse a day after another!!! when I mentioned how stupid they look I think it was a kind of a punch on the face to them to wake up!! and realize what they were doing!

After that day, I felt like I grew up some fearless attitude inside of me! I wasn’t scared nor worried to tell anyone the truth in their face, and give my opinion fearlessly !

I have to admit that without those bullies I wouldn’t be where I am now! I grew up slowly, a step by step to become fearless! and more confident than I was in the past! Thanks to them I was getting the best grades! thanks to them I developed myself optimism!

My message here is: be who you are, never hurt or bully others, it can harm a lot of people lives, don’t take it as a joke, because this joke can grow up to be something serious and lead others to harm themselves in any possible way just to get forgiveandforgetquotesrid of that pain they think is real! be friendly, be nice, be what you want to be without crossing your limits! and the world will be just FINE …. 

And for those whom are getting bullied, report it, if it’s not working, ignore them, if it’s not working then face them, make them stop that thing they’re doing! don’t behave inappropriately ! forgive them, and move on with your life ! do it for yourself, not for them! I know it’s hard, I’ve been there, and got out safely, as I did, I’m sure you’re strong enough to do as well! I believe in you! focus on positive things, life is beautiful, I know they make it look like it’s the worst place to be at, but trust me, it’s not! we’ve got so much to give! so much to live for, you can’t imagine the opportunities that are waiting for you to take them! never lose hope! go after your dreams and achieve them! don’t tie your life to people nor to objects because they will fade, tie it to a sacred goal and achieve it! that will be the time when you will reach happiness! 

Much love, Ikram ❤

Famous quotes

“Don’t be satisfied with stories, how things have gone with others. Unfold your own myth.” Rumi, Essential Rumi

I totally disagree with Rumi, because lot of stories can change our lives, and there’s an other quote says: ” There no time to have your own stories, take others stories and learn, and make from your story a successful one”

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and this one is the quote that I like to follow a lot, because technically we have no time to waste on experiencing things we know that they are wrong or half-wrong and we know that others tried it and didn’t work, so basically we have to look forward and seek for the good achievement !

So we must be satisfied with the story as long as it gives us a good reflection, and go toward our dreams, somehow he’s right from the corner of greating our myth and unfolding it, but we look for stories as an example, if he meant not seeing it as an example then I disagree with him, but if he meant to look forward then I agree with him!

Self-talk beyond psychology and science…

 We all do have those self-talking minutes everyday, and it’s quite normal but sometimes we cannot control our self-talks and it’s definitely bad for us mentally and physically. 

as we go about our daily lives we are constantly thinking about and interpreting the situations we find ourselves in. It’s as though we have an internal voice inside our head that determines how we perceive every situation. Psychologists call this inner voice ‘self-talk‘, and it includes our conscious thoughts as well as our unconscious assumptions or beliefs…

most of time, our self-talk is about: ” I didn’t do well today”, “I’m feeling hopeless”, “I want to achieve that”, “I must be looking forward”….

And by the end of the day we found ourselves exhausted because of a painful headache, or a hot fever!

The self-talk doesn’t affect only the mental side of us, but also it affects us physically, it  is often skewed towards the negative, and sometimes it’s just plain wrong. so that’s why it’s so important to control what you’re telling to yourself everyday.

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the self-talk can provide two kind of persons: optimist person and pessimist person.

for the optimist he/she needs only a strong confidence and lot of hope to a great achievement, and of course by controlling his/her actions and being responsible for everything, and they must believe that there’s some good things in this world they must fight for! and they will definitely succeed ! No doubt!

The pessimist person will lead him/her self to failure and that’s by doubt and despair, how they create these two? well the answer is simple

by the self-talk!

It  is often skewed towards the negative, and sometimes it’s just plain wrong, so how do we avoid it? and if the failure is not enough to avoid the negative self-talk what else can happen?

Well, we must challenge ourselves and have the grip on our minds! by asking a few questions such as:

1. Reality testing

  • What is my evidence for and against my thinking?john-p-thinking
  • Are my thoughts factual, or are they just my interpretations?
  • Am I jumping to negative conclusions?
  • How can I find out if my thoughts are actually true?

2. Look for alternative explanations

  • Are there any other ways that I could look at this situation?
  • What else could this mean?
  • If I were being positive, how would I perceive this situation?

3. Putting it in perspective

  • Is this situation as bad as I am making out to be?
  • What is the worst thing that could happen? How likely is it?
  • What is the best thing that could happen?
  • What is most likely to happen?
  • Is there anything good about this situation?
  • Will this matter in five years time?

And also we must have a specified goal that we seek to reach, if we don’t have any, then let’s create one, why are we living? we must do something that may change our lives and others lives!

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Pessimism might lead to heart diseases and an eternal depression that cant be coped ! it harms our lives and the ones that we love the most, at least if we have that spot of not loving ourselves enough all of us have that big feeling of loving someone else, so we have to protect them how? protect them from the pain of losing us! 
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Be safe they’re waiting for you!

And we must keep in mind that Optimism leads to a healthy life long living term, and a happier one, no diseases no struggling.

and if you need help just go to the closest person to your heart, or someone you can trust, ask for their help, I’m sure they care and  remember that: “Even the darkest night will end and the sun will rise.”

Adding new habits to my routine…

Sometimes the change it good…

The school season has ended about a month ago, and I found my self heavier a bit, and getting lazy most of the time. So I said hey! What about practising a bit, and start learning how to cook!
It’s pretty cool to go to practise at 6:00 am every morning, though I feel so tired and I just want to stop every time I start running, but then I tell myself Hey Young lady You got some great calories to lose in here so move that big body and shake the ground! 
And fortunately it’s working I lost some weight in a week, it didn’t appear in the beginning but now It gave me some results and I feel happy with it. I start liking my body. And It kinda add a new effect to myself confidence.  ImageIt has been two months and a few weeks since my mother left to TX, I miss  her a lot she was the one who takes care of everything, and keeps everything under control. 
I start leaning on myself a lot these days, I’m learning how to live without a mother and yeah I definitely succeeded! I have some sisters she left two with me actually, I never go to the kitchen to help them! But this time I tried to change my habits a bit and become more useful at home, like cleaning some rooms, or setting up the couch, making dinner once…
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Pizza, Salad, and Juice

I just want to prove to my mother that I can live by my own, and be responsible, and I’m lea
rning I’m learning throughout all all of this!  
 So here’s a shot of my dinner last night, so It wasn’t a really hard thing to do but just a small thing for the beginning.
and now I must go to run, So I’m so happy on doing what I’m doing. 
Actually in a few years I could never practise sports, whether  in public, or in privet, It used to terrify me a lot, but not any more! I’m too old to be scared of doing a 30 minutes exercises to lose some weight!

So lesson learned: “Keep your old fears away, and today, do what you could never do before”