Something I figured out with time
The Tree of Life and Stock “Optimism”
Self-talk beyond psychology and science…
We all do have those self-talking minutes everyday, and it’s quite normal but sometimes we cannot control our self-talks and it’s definitely bad for us mentally and physically.
as we go about our daily lives we are constantly thinking about and interpreting the situations we find ourselves in. It’s as though we have an internal voice inside our head that determines how we perceive every situation. Psychologists call this inner voice ‘self-talk‘, and it includes our conscious thoughts as well as our unconscious assumptions or beliefs…
most of time, our self-talk is about: ” I didn’t do well today”, “I’m feeling hopeless”, “I want to achieve that”, “I must be looking forward”….
And by the end of the day we found ourselves exhausted because of a painful headache, or a hot fever!
The self-talk doesn’t affect only the mental side of us, but also it affects us physically, it is often skewed towards the negative, and sometimes it’s just plain wrong. so that’s why it’s so important to control what you’re telling to yourself everyday.
the self-talk can provide two kind of persons: optimist person and pessimist person.
for the optimist he/she needs only a strong confidence and lot of hope to a great achievement, and of course by controlling his/her actions and being responsible for everything, and they must believe that there’s some good things in this world they must fight for! and they will definitely succeed ! No doubt!
The pessimist person will lead him/her self to failure and that’s by doubt and despair, how they create these two? well the answer is simple
by the self-talk!
It is often skewed towards the negative, and sometimes it’s just plain wrong, so how do we avoid it? and if the failure is not enough to avoid the negative self-talk what else can happen?
Well, we must challenge ourselves and have the grip on our minds! by asking a few questions such as:
1. Reality testing
- What is my evidence for and against my thinking?
- Are my thoughts factual, or are they just my interpretations?
- Am I jumping to negative conclusions?
- How can I find out if my thoughts are actually true?
2. Look for alternative explanations
- Are there any other ways that I could look at this situation?
- What else could this mean?
- If I were being positive, how would I perceive this situation?
3. Putting it in perspective
- Is this situation as bad as I am making out to be?
- What is the worst thing that could happen? How likely is it?
- What is the best thing that could happen?
- What is most likely to happen?
- Is there anything good about this situation?
- Will this matter in five years time?
And also we must have a specified goal that we seek to reach, if we don’t have any, then let’s create one, why are we living? we must do something that may change our lives and others lives!
- Pessimism might lead to heart diseases and an eternal depression that cant be coped ! it harms our lives and the ones that we love the most, at least if we have that spot of not loving ourselves enough all of us have that big feeling of loving someone else, so we have to protect them how? protect them from the pain of losing us!
Be safe they’re waiting for you!
And we must keep in mind that Optimism leads to a healthy life long living term, and a happier one, no diseases no struggling.
and if you need help just go to the closest person to your heart, or someone you can trust, ask for their help, I’m sure they care and remember that: “Even the darkest night will end and the sun will rise.”
Keeping hope … Mother I love you!
I used to believe that my family doesn’t support me a lot in doing the things I like to do the most, but I realized that I haven’t been looking from their corner, I wasn’t blind but I just didn’t try to look.
I spend the whole summer trying to learn new songs on guitar, and it was amazing, I myself didn’t believe that I can play guitar. 
it wasn’t so easy to learn them all at once, but I kept going one by one, and I felt like I have accomplished something…
It’s really amusing that feeling after doing something you think is good …And yeah I found out that my family supports me as long as they know that I’m doing the right thing.
I like it when my dad calls me to drink a cup of tea with him! he makes me feel special and noticed.
My mother is sick, I’m always in touch with her, afraid to lose her but am gathering the hope, and keep praying that she will be fine.
I’m always thankful to all of my family, without them I wouldn’t be who I am, though we argue and do not agree in some points, but our love and the fact that we’re faithful for each other, keep us strong and looking forward .
I miss my mother a lot, she has been away for five months till now,
I dislike the emptiness she left behind her, we start knowing how valuable she was when she was here, I regret that I wasn’t so close to her in the past.
She used to be the the weapon of my self-vindication, she defends me a lot,
I miss seeing that angelic joy on her face when something good happens to one of us,
she keeps us all together in the rough times and in the happiest moments,
I’m just so grateful to have her in my life, though she’s far I always feel like she’s here and she never left… by keeping her in touch.
The media and the internet is such a bless definitely !
I almost lost hope on her, when I knew she’s so sick, now I’m really grateful to god and to everyone who saved her, I wish I can thank them one by one personally if I can!
this lesson is for the life time: keep hope on your family because they will never ditch you in rough!
No one Can scare Me But GOD
Adding new habits to my routine…
Sometimes the change it good…
The school season has ended about a month ago, and I found my self heavier a bit, and getting lazy most of the time. So I said hey! What about practising a bit, and start learning how to cook! It’s pretty cool to go to practise at 6:00 am every morning, though I feel so tired and I just want to stop every time I start running, but then I tell myself Hey Young lady You got some great calories to lose in here so move that big body and shake the ground!And fortunately it’s working I lost some weight in a week, it didn’t appear in the beginning but now It gave me some results and I feel happy with it. I start liking my body. And It kinda add a new effect to myself confidence.
It has been two months and a few weeks since my mother left to TX, I miss her a lot she was the one who takes care of everything, and keeps everything under control.
I start leaning on myself a lot these days, I’m learning how to live without a mother and yeah I definitely succeeded! I have some sisters she left two with me actually, I never go to the kitchen to help them! But this time I tried to change my habits a bit and become more useful at home, like cleaning some rooms, or setting up the couch, making dinner once…
Pizza, Salad, and Juice
So lesson learned: “Keep your old fears away, and today, do what you could never do before”
Giving up on what I want isn’t on my TO-DO LIST !!!
I’m not that kind of girl that give up so easily, I hate to lose, when I started this new journey I created something strong, something I can’t touch it with my nails but only with my heart and brain, it was the WILL, Yeah I will finish this journey and take all the risks and let go of the past, I will be more open up to other people, in the end not all people bite :p!
It’s so amazing to focus on the people around me those who care and love me, those who would sacrifice and did sacrifice a lot for me.
My mother has been away for about two mounts, I promised her that I will be responsible and be a good girl, I miss her so much, I wish I can be just right where she is to give her lots of hugs she needs that, and so do I !
But this it, life is experiencing me, giving me chances and taking others. Thanks to god that I don’t lose my self grip when I’m mad! >_< ….I take it as a gift i’m so grateful to god.
I want to prove to my mom, my brother, my sisters, and the best friends someone can ever has, that I can do more than they can ever imagine. if I ever felt sad life would push me forward, and I just love how it goes!!!
I’m not giving up, not now, nor tomorrow nor after that.
Lesson learned :
“God gave me a gift, which is life, I gotta take it, save it, and be mature on handling it”Being yourself….Is not a hard thing!
My fear Scientifcly What is it?
In and out of your veins…
So this is going to be my first post yeah 🙂 … Well I’m trying to develop my skills in psycholgy and it’s secrets…and one of the things that keeps me wondering what happens when we’re scared??? So here’s everything I found yet…
When fear crept into your mind it must be something outrageous… In fact we’re not afraid because the scence is scary…which is not scarly in real…But we are scared because we’ve learned once something and we had a psychological reaction on it… it is called a fight or a flight response. So when you get scared of something like your dealing with some issue do you stay and fight or escape? in both ways your body does a number of things automatically so it’s ready for quick action or a quick escape.
Your heart rate increases to pump more blood to your muscles and brain. Your lungs take in air faster to supply your body with oxygen. The pupils in your eyes get larger to see better. And your digestive and urinary systems slow down for the moment so you can concentrate on more important things. however….the right choice will make you feel calm if you’ve chosen to stay and fight of course…but the wrong choice will make your body disturbed for a while and then maybe you’ll survive or maybe you’ll get nut! so it’s better to calm down when your panic’d everything is so worthless… 😉
On Becoming Fearless 